Yated Shidduch Forum 9/30/16: She’s Ready, He’s Not. What To Do?
Question: I was involved in redding a shidduch. The boy is a very fine young man, though not what we would call a “learning boy.” The boy and girl went out five times and the girl was ready. At that point, the boy was asked where he’s holding, and he said that in his circles, people go out […]
Reflections on Approaching Rosh Hashana: Rabbi Hauer
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/23/16: Mislead About Getting Engaged
Question: I was dating a boy for several weeks and we connected well on many levels. Each date was quite long, leading us closer to cementing the relationship. At the very last meeting, we spoke about finalizing the shidduch. The boy clearly led me to believe that the next meeting would be a prelude to an engagement. The […]
To Travel for a Date or Not to Travel; That Is the Question
Who should travel for a first date? Should it be the young man, or the young woman? Lately, this has become one of the most frequently asked questions by those who are in the shidduch parsha. Parents, young women, and bachurim are all asking this question and wondering what is the appropriate, right, and fair […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/16/16: Is Anyone Taking a Stand to Solve the Shidduch Situation?
Question: Out of genuine concern for the numerous girls I know who are in their upper twenties and even thirties and do not seem to be finding their bashertes, I am writing this with frustration and disbelief. We have heard so much about the shidduch crisis and have written so many articles, yet very little concrete […]
Soup, Salad and Shidduchim with Mrs. D. Ringo
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/9/16: Looking for Money, an Appropriate Priority in Shidduchim?
Question: My husband and I have a son in shidduchim and we are looking for money. There, I said it. I know, one isn’t to supposed to say it so openly. But we are. We’ve been down the other road, and it is just too hard for us to carry an additional couple financially. My […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/2/16: Sharing a Positive Report After a Shidduch Call
Question: I am an eleventh grade teacher and I was called about one of my students, who I think very highly of. I gave an extremely positive report, raving about this girl’s qualities. I was wondering what the panelists feel about letting this girl know that I was called for shidduch-related info and that I gave […]