Yated Shidduch Forum 7/28/17: How to Say No to a Proposed Shidduch
Question: Sometimes, people look into a proposed shidduch and get back to the shadchan saying, “I will not pursue this now, but I am not saying no. Perhaps in a few months from now…” Is this an appropriate way to turn down a shidduch or is this insulting? Is it better just to say no, and then, if you reconsider […]
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Yated Shidduch Forum 7/21/17: Will My Son’s In-Laws Respect His Learning in Kollel?
Question: My son was redd a girl who, like him, wants to start married life in kollel. How long my son will learn, I don’t know. Neither does he. But it is something he wants to do. Our research revealed that while the girl wants a boy who will be learning for some time – even an extended […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/14/17: Why Can’t I Ride My Bike?
Question: I am a 22-year-old bochur and I just came home from Eretz Yisroel. I want to bike around and my mother absolutely refuses. She says that I won’t get a shidduch if I ride my bike. Who is right? Answer: As it appears to me, this is not so much a matter of right or wrong as it […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/7/17: Is a Second Date Worthwhile Even for Experienced Daters?
Question: In the past, some of the panelists have discussed whether a second date should be a given. Some are of the opinion that there should always be a second date. My daughter has been dating for several years already. She’s gone out quite a bit. When she goes out with a young man for the […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/30/17: Testing the Dating Waters?
Question: In helping young men and young ladies navigate the parsha of shidduchim, I often see that while they have a pretty good idea of where they’re heading in life, they really have no idea what they’re looking for in a shidduch. Instead of talking and thinking “up-in-the-air,” I advise that they get into the shidduch scene, meet shadchanim, and just begin […]