Yated Shidduch Forum 6/29/18: Am I Too Chilled About Dating?
Question: As a boy in shidduchim for a number of years already, I noticed something about myself: I no longer go on dates with “jitters.” Unfortunately, it is almost like I am going on a business meeting or family outing. As a result, I am much more natural, must less rehearsed, than when I started shidduchim. I am […]
Is It Really Okay That We Share Pictures For A Shidduch?
Question: Girls in shidduchim seem to be asked for pictures of themselves all the time by shadchanim and others, and not just a picture, but a “nice one” and a “casual one.” As a girl in shidduchim, I am perplexed. What has the world come to? Last I checked, there are no pictures of women and girls in Torah publications, like the Yated, […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/15/18: Why is the Clothing I Wear on a Date Such a Big Deal?
Question: As a boy, I’m really irked that people make such a big deal about the clothing that I wear on a pegisha (date). They say that it’s integral that I mamish “wow” the meduberes on first sight. Charles Tyrwhitt shirt? Check! Dry cleaned suit? Check! Hat lookin’ spic n’ span? Check! You get the gist. So my question is this: […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/8/18: Long Dates & Uncomfortable Venues; Why Must It Be That Way?
Question: Having been in the parsha for quite a while already, I’ve noticed a few disturbing things and I would like to air them: Why are we being told by shadchanim to go on extremely long dates? Which bochur has ever had a conversation with a friend of his for 5+ hours? Why are we being told to go to restaurants, […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/1/18: Should I Be Expecting More?
Question: I met a very nice, sincere gentleman. From the time I was out with him, I could tell that he is a sincere, kind, thoughtful, growing person, who has his values straight and holds his own. He has a good job, a good learning situation, and friends, and I see that he is a […]