Shidduch Center Dedicated Shadchanim: What are they doing & Why are they so important?
While many are aware of The Shidduch Center of Baltimore’s pioneering work, there are two questions that are frequently directed our way. First, what does it means to be a Dedicated Shidduch Center shadchan? And second, why is it so important that we have an organization in our city that formally employs shadchanim? Regarding the […]
The Shidduch Center: Creating and facilitating dating opportunities for Baltimore’s singles
Who is The Shidduch Center of Baltimore, Inc.? The Shidduch Center of Baltimore, Inc. was formed in February of 2008 as a non-profit organization dedicated to serving the dating needs of the single men and women in the Jewish community of Baltimore, MD. Unprecedented Challenges, Unprecedented Solutions The Shidduch Center is driven by the conviction […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 2/15/19: Single Men v. Single Women – Who Has It Easier In Shidduchim?
Question:
There is popular myth out there that it is easier to be a boy in shidduchim than a girl.
I am a (lucky) mother to have both a son and a daughter is shidduchim. Although it is a lot quieter on my daughter’s end (which can be a challenge too), shidduchim takes a lot more of a toll on my son. Dating frequently is very time-consuming and emotionally-draining, not to mention expensive. He is often required to travel in to the girl (up to five hours of driving there and back). Also, the overflow of names given to him first just means a lot more “nos” given to the boy’s side. Although boys are meant to be less sensitive, rejection is always hurtful. Once the dating begins, my son also has a lot more responsibility, such as carrying the conversation, deciding on a suitable venue, etc.
I think the boys deserve more validation and sensitivity. What are your thoughts?