Yated Shidduch Forum 6/28/19: How Should I Be Comparing the People I Date to Each Other?
Question:
I recently went out with a girl and we had excellent conversation, but for whatever reason it didn’t work out. More girls are being suggested, boruch Hashem, and the phone is ringing, so to speak.
What I’m wondering is whether I should allow the great conversations I had with the previous girl help me decide if the next girl could work or not. If the next time I go out, the conversations are good, or even great, but not as good as the ones with the previous girl, would that mean anything? Should I go ahead anyway?
In short, should I use the conversations I had with a prior girl to help me judge future dates?
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/21/19: How Should I Handle An Unexpected Encounter With My Ex or His/Her Parents?
Question:
What’s the protocol for when a boy bumps into the parents of a girl (or the girl herself) after having been on a few dates and the shidduch ended respectfully and/or mutually:
A) Ignore.
B) Turn red, avoid eye contact, and reverse course.
C) Give a quick nod and move along.
D) None of the above.
I’ve experienced this awkward situation time and again and would appreciate your guidance.
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/14/19: Should There be a Freezer Period for Single Women Entering Shidduchim?
Question:
As my children are nearing shidduchim age, I am beginning to catch on to the lingo and accepted norms, and I’m gearing up for the parsha. I am aware of the “freezer” that is set up for boys upon their arrival home from Eretz Yisroel, which gives them time to settle down, think, adjust, and begin in a new environment without immediately jumping into shidduchim.
Why is there no such arrangement for girls? Shouldn’t they get a chance to settle down from seminary, adjust to a new schedule, and think before jumping right into things? (If anything, they need it more after their “high” from seminary, giving them time to come back to earth.) Would it be correct to withhold one’s daughter from entering shidduchim for a little while until she settles down? Is it okay for a boy to only go out with a girl who had some time back home and is not right off the boat?
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Yated Shidduch Forum 6/7/19: Do I Always Need to Call the Resume References?
Question:
I was redd a shidduch by someone I trust. He knows the person well and was able to give us a very thorough picture of who the person is. My parents and I liked what we heard and called one or two people who are not on the résumé. They confirmed the positive information and we are ready to say yes. Is there any benefit to calling the people who are on the résumé?