Yated Shidduch Forum 6/14/19: Should There be a Freezer Period for Single Women Entering Shidduchim?
Question:
As my children are nearing shidduchim age, I am beginning to catch on to the lingo and accepted norms, and I’m gearing up for the parsha. I am aware of the “freezer” that is set up for boys upon their arrival home from Eretz Yisroel, which gives them time to settle down, think, adjust, and begin in a new environment without immediately jumping into shidduchim.
Why is there no such arrangement for girls? Shouldn’t they get a chance to settle down from seminary, adjust to a new schedule, and think before jumping right into things? (If anything, they need it more after their “high” from seminary, giving them time to come back to earth.) Would it be correct to withhold one’s daughter from entering shidduchim for a little while until she settles down? Is it okay for a boy to only go out with a girl who had some time back home and is not right off the boat?
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