Yated Shidduch Forum 7/26/19: My Relative “Just Doesn’t See the Shidduch.” What Should I Do?
Question:
A shadchan thinks of a shidduch and suggests the idea to both sides. The boy’s side calls the references and gets very good information. The girl’s parents contact the boy’s references and they are pleased with what they hear. After several phone calls, the boy discovers that one of his relatives knows the girl and her family. The boy asks that relative for information. The relative thinks for a moment and says, “I just don’t see it. I don’t see it happening.”
The shadchan may also know both sides, but this relative knows the boy better. Should they go out?
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/19/19: Can I Tell People That I am Dating?
Question:
Who’s allowed to know when one is dating?
Assuming that a boy or girl should strive to have “minimal” research exposure regarding asking friends for info about others, how much can be shared about the dating process, such as asking an out-of-towner for info about a certain place, borrowing a gps/ties/games, notifying chavrusos/coworkers about one’s leave of absence, etc.?
Is there anything wrong with other people knowing that you’re dating? Is there a limit to how many people or in what regard? What are practical solutions to avoid the dilemma of giving fake excuses?