Yated Shidduch Forum 8/2/19: Why I am Not Hearing About More Single Women?
Question:
As a bochur in shidduchim for some time, with many friends in the same situation, and hearing that there are many girls also looking for their zivugim, I was wondering if there is anything that could be done to address this matter.
A married friend of mine told me that his wife has friends in the parsha for over two years who have not yet dated! Why aren’t we hearing about these girls?
Take a look at the frum real estate market. There are hundreds of agents working in that field. Yet, in the market of shidduchim, there are far fewer “agents” – namely, shadchanim. Now, obviously everyone has their basherte zivug and time, but b’derech hateva, if shadchanim were paid equivalent to other sales positions, wouldn’t there be more shadchanim, and in turn more shidduchim being redd, and we’d have more simchos?
I feel that shadchanim are undervalued and underpaid, and we may benefit drastically by paying them like it is a full-time job, because it is.
What do the panelists feel about this?