Yated Shidduch Forum 1/8/21: Are We Overeducating Our Daughter’s?
Question:
Like many people, I try from time to time to suggest shidduchim to singles I know. In the majority of cases, it’s the girl’s side who rejects the suggestion based on the fact that the boy isn’t spiritually suitable for them. It may be that the boy is learning in yeshiva but also attending school to learn a vocation and the girl wants a serious learner only. Or maybe he’s working and she only wants a learning boy. Or she may be okay with a working/college boy, but he has to be a solid ben Torah per her standards.
These rejection patterns are often repeated and have gotten me thinking. Many of these values are instilled in our girls during their high school and seminary years by well-meaning mechanchos….
Yated Shidduch Forum 1/1/21: Leaving Without Saying Goodbye?
Question:
On several occasions, my son has had girls run out of his car after a date. He tells the girl that he had a nice date, and then, for example, he adds that he’ll call her (if that’s where they’re up to), and she flies out of the car without a proper good night.
There seems to be something missing in the training here.
Have you found this to be an issue? If yes, who should be responsible to convey to girls – and boys – that at the end of a date, a proper goodbye and good night is mentchlech?