Yated Shidduch Forum 7/9/21: Closing In On 30 and Totally Confused. Please Help
Question:
I’m a twenty-seven-year-old boy and I have been dating for over five years. At this point, my head is spinning. I have been out with so many girls, and after every time, I find myself more confused that I don’t even know what I am looking for. I believe that I have to go back from the very beginning. Can you please give me guidance?
How do I know what girl is right for me? What qualities will help build a marriage and what not? How can I tell in a date if she will make a good marriage partner? Does she have to be exactly on my level in hashkafah? Does she have to enjoy the same activities I do? Do I have to agree with everything she says? If I love taking exotic vacations all over the world and she hates flying, is that a reason to say no? I really hope you can give me clear-cut guidance as to what to look for and what not to look for.