Yated Shidduch Forum 12/17/21: Are Her Shidduch References Being Lazy?
Question:
As the mother of a boy, I would like to raise a problem that I face while trying to gather information about a girl. Too often, I call a reference who answers the phone, and I tell her that I am calling for shidduch information. Before even giving her the girl’s name, she says, “Sorry, I can’t speak right now. I am just sitting down to dinner / putting my kids to sleep / in a car full of girls / in a store…”
People must realize that giving shidduch info should be a priority. If someone calls, give the info right then. If you need more time, call back right away.
Don’t wait… The girl may lose her chance. I may just go on to the next girl.