Yated Shidduch Forum 1/14/22: Am I Sacrificing my Ruchniyus by Dating a Part-Time Learner?
Question:
I hope you can help me out with my dilemma.
I have been in shidduchim for a few years already. I was recently redd to two different boys. One is learning full-time. The other is learning part-time and working the other part of the day.
I was always looking for a full-time learner. However, the boy who is learning part-time, we are told, has beautiful middos, and sounds personality-wise more like what I’m looking for. We didn’t hear as good information about the full-time learner.
My question is: What’s more important, middos or learning? In school, we were always taught to look for a boy who will sit and learn all day. Am I giving up something in my ruchniyus by giving a yes to the part-time learner?