Question: 
 
I just went on a fifth date with a bochur. He seemed like he was everything I was looking for in a husband, until he dropped a bombshell by disclosing that neither he nor his parents checked any of my references. His rationale behind refusing to check references was his preference for natural face-to-face communication, rather than using reference checking – which I actually consider to be the only valid form of dating someone. I think I feel cheated. Is this a reason to end it with him?

Question:

I recently had the following dilemma. Our family car was not drivable and we needed a car for my date. Would it have been appropriate to have the shadchan ask the girl’s side if we can use her car for the date? Or should I just have spent the money and rented a car? [At that point, we didn’t know how long we’d be car-less.]

Question:
 
I have a follow-up to the question from a few weeks ago about serving as a shidduch reference.
 
Recently, quite a few times, I got calls about singles from people, but they refused to provide their name or their relationship to the shidduch (meaning if it’s for their son, daughter, or some other relative).
 
Am I obligated or expected to provide shidduch information to people who don’t want to identify themselves? Am I doing a disservice to the singles in question if I insist on the people revealing their identities (in which case I really don’t know if the names and info they give me are genuine anyway)? Or am I just being too paranoid?

Question:
 
What is the protocol regarding when to tell grandparents of a pending engagement? Also, is there an inyan for a chosson to take his potential kallah to visit the grandparents – and if yes, when?

Question:
 
I am a 20-year-old Bais Yaakov girl in shidduchim and I have had Crohn’s disease since I was very young. I am ready to begin shidduchim and have a question for the panelists before I begin to date. Let me give you some background information so that you can best answer my question. 

Question:

I am a child of divorce who has been in shidduchim now for 10 years. Over the years, I’ve been privy to conversations of people discussing their deep distrust of children of divorce in shidduchim. I myself have been turned down for exactly that reason. Seeing as our parents’ marriages are not something we have any control over, it seems unfair that this is held against the children. Should people be putting so much weight on something out of the child’s/dater’s hands?