Yated Shidduch Forum 11/23/18: Can Better Dating Practices Help Reduce Divorce Rates?
Question: In light of statistics indicating that the divorce rate in the frum community is increasing, some askonim, rabbonim and community leaders are suggesting that there is something wrong with our dating system and that some of these heartbreaks could have been avoided. Do the panelists have any suggestions for better dating productivity to avoid, minimize, or reverse this regrettable trend? […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 11/16/18: Will Skipping Seminary Harm My Shidduch Prospects?
Question: I’m a 12th grader from an out-of-town community considering seminary next year. From a shidduch perspective, does it make such a difference if I don’t go? I heard that one of the first questions mothers ask when researching girls for their sons is which seminary she went to. I just don’t have an interest in going to […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 11/9/18: My Future Father-In-Law Is Anti-Vaccinations. What Now?
Question: I have gone out with a girl who mentioned on a date that her father doesn’t believe in vaccinating. “But he’s not the type to tell other people what to do,” she said. [His children were all vaccinated. Apparently, his views on the matter changed after his children had grown up.] Like my parents […]
Nov. 11 The 5K Approach to Dating with Dr. Chaya Newman
Nov. 11 2018 Event with Dr. Chaya Newman
Yated Shidduch Forum 11/2/18: Do You Want to See My Bracelet?
Question: I went on a date and was very disturbed when the girl asked me, “Do you want to see my bracelet?” And she rolled up her sleeve and showed it to me. I was very disturbed. How should I have reacted? Maybe she was just nervous and not thinking straight. Should I be concerned? Answer: […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/26/18: Giving a “Yes” to More Than One Suggestion at the Same Time?
Question: Dear Esteemed Panelists, I read this column religiously and appreciate the insightful and rich ideas to which I’m exposed on a weekly basis. I hope that you will be able to provide the same meaningful answer not only to my particular question, but to the broader public, some of whom may be experiencing a […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/19/18: Nervous About an Over-The-Top Proposal
Question: I am going out with a boy and things are going very well. Barring any disappointments, our dating will likely end in engagement. I am petrified of an extravagant proposal. I know that it’s in style and some even anticipate it, but I don’t. I would appreciate a quiet, simple proposal, nothing fancy or […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/12/18: Hung Up On Yichus?
Question: With children in shidduchim, I often encounter the issue of yichus. I am wondering if you, as shadchanim, find that people are hung up on this. Interestingly, I recently read that someone asked Rav Avigdor Miller zt”l how much emphasis they should put on yichus when choosing a shidduch. Rav Miller responded that if the yichus is that the girl “comes from good parents, her father is […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/21/18: Am I Leading Him On If I Say Yes?
Question: Ayala receives a yes from Binyomin. Ayala and her parents do some checking and are really unsure as to the viability of this being a match for her. Ayala feels that there is less than a 50% chance that anything will come out of their meeting. Would Ayala be leading Binyomin on if she […]
SEP 16: Rabbi Moshe Hauer – Reflections on Approaching the Aseres Yimei Teshuva
Insight & Inspiration Sep. 2018