Yated Shidduch Forum 9/1/17: “Rowdy” in High School But Still a “Gem”?
Question: Recently, I received a shidduch call from the sister of a boy, calling to check out my good friend’s daughter. I had only good things to say about the girl, knowing her as a mature, pleasant young woman. However, the sister interrupted and asked: “Weren’t you her ninth grade teacher?” I replied that yes, I was. […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/25/17: Concerns with Kashrus?
Question: Yosef is taking Tova out on a fourth date. Yosef announces that he made reservations for dinner for the two of them. He does not give Tova a choice of a restaurant. What should Tova’s reaction be when she realizes that her family is not comfortable with the hechsher of this restaurant? Should she tell him nicely […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/18/17: Dating in the Fast Lane
Question: I was on a date recently, and while driving (switching lanes, merging, etc.), the girl kept on looking over her shoulder to make certain that the lane was clear. Although this is (probably) not a factor in determining whether or not she will be a good marriage partner, it did come across as annoying, […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/11/17: The Shidduch Didn’t Work Out, is it Still Safe to Say Hello?
Question: I have a question that has been on my mind for the last little while. A girl and a boy go out a number of times and really get to know each other, and the shidduch does not work. What is proper protocol if they keep bumping into each other? Is it a problem to give […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/4/17: New Rules & Regulations for Shadchanim?
Question: If you look around, the current shidduch process is obviously not cutting it. There is practically not a family in Klal Yisroel that doesn’t have a single boy or girl who is in the parsha and struggling with the current system. As a result, we are left with a large population of single people that seems to be growing. […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/28/17: How to Say No to a Proposed Shidduch
Question: Sometimes, people look into a proposed shidduch and get back to the shadchan saying, “I will not pursue this now, but I am not saying no. Perhaps in a few months from now…” Is this an appropriate way to turn down a shidduch or is this insulting? Is it better just to say no, and then, if you reconsider […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/21/17: Will My Son’s In-Laws Respect His Learning in Kollel?
Question: My son was redd a girl who, like him, wants to start married life in kollel. How long my son will learn, I don’t know. Neither does he. But it is something he wants to do. Our research revealed that while the girl wants a boy who will be learning for some time – even an extended […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/14/17: Why Can’t I Ride My Bike?
Question: I am a 22-year-old bochur and I just came home from Eretz Yisroel. I want to bike around and my mother absolutely refuses. She says that I won’t get a shidduch if I ride my bike. Who is right? Answer: As it appears to me, this is not so much a matter of right or wrong as it […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/7/17: Is a Second Date Worthwhile Even for Experienced Daters?
Question: In the past, some of the panelists have discussed whether a second date should be a given. Some are of the opinion that there should always be a second date. My daughter has been dating for several years already. She’s gone out quite a bit. When she goes out with a young man for the […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/30/17: Testing the Dating Waters?
Question: In helping young men and young ladies navigate the parsha of shidduchim, I often see that while they have a pretty good idea of where they’re heading in life, they really have no idea what they’re looking for in a shidduch. Instead of talking and thinking “up-in-the-air,” I advise that they get into the shidduch scene, meet shadchanim, and just begin […]