Yated Shidduch Forum 3/29/19: Is it Important to Share in Shabbos Meals During Engagement?
Question:
Thank you for an excellent column each week.
I recently heard that more and more parents of chassanim and kallos have been pushing for them to skip the Shabbos together at each other’s houses during the engagement. They say that spending Shabbos together at each other’s homes causes unneeded stress.
In your opinion, are there any benefits to having a Shabbos together at both sides’ houses, or is there really no need for it? Are there instances when it has been beneficial because they were able to learn more about each other’s families? Can this be done by simply having supper together and not hosting an entire weekend?
Thank you for your insight.
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March 25: Shidduch Center Cause Match Campaign!
The Shidduch Center of Baltimore and Its Dedicated Shadchanim
Over the past three years, thanks to unparalleled siyata deShmaya, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore has been zochehto set up well over 500 couples on dates, and has seen 56 of those dates result in marriages, all for families in our community. While this incredible outcome is certainly representative of the work of numerous shadchanim, in combination with our many events and programs, it is without question that the vast majority of these results would not be possible without the exceptional efforts of our team of dedicated shadchanim.
613 Seconds with The Shidduch Center
We spent some time with The Shidduch Center of Baltimore’s Executive Director, Shlomo Goldberger, to learn more about the The Shidduch Center, and the profound impact it is having on our community.
Yated Shidduch Forum 3/22/19: How Can We Ensure That Our Shidduch Suggestions Are On Target?
Question:
Our child has been in shidduchim for eight months and has gone out a few times, but for some reason, the suggestions and dates do not seem to be on target. It is almost like we haven’t been able to effectively convey to people what it is that is right for our child, or perhaps we ourselves don’t even really know. How can we make sure that we have clarity of what our child is looking for, make sure that we are on the same page, and represent ourselves to others in an effective manner?
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Yated Shidduch Forum 3/8/19: Waiting for Months to Get a Date. What Can We Do?
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I have a really great daughter who has been in shidduchim for about two years. She has an amazing personality, went to a great school and seminary, has great friends, etc. The bottom line is that she’s a real catch. We have been to countless shadchanim and are involved in the community. People know who we are. So what can possibly be the issue? My daughter has not gotten redd a single shidduch in about eight months!
The waiting is agonizing for me and for her. We did and continue to do all that we possibly can. What are we doing wrong (if anything)? Is there any advice to make this process easier and more positive for all girls in shidduchim?
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Yated Shidduch Forum 3/1/19: We Already Gave a Yes. Can We Change Our Minds?
Question:
We gave a yes to a shidduch for our son, and as the girl’s side was checking out our son, the shadchan came back with a list of questions numerous times. We realized based on the questions that this was not a match. Both sides were looking for different attributes, and my son, in our opinion at that point, was not what they were looking for and vice versa.
We let the shadchan know while they were checking out my son that we were no longer interested and we explained why…