Yated Shidduch Forum 10/29/21: Should A Young Single Woman buy Her Own Home as a Rental Property?
Question:
I have a wonderful 23-year-old daughter who is currently in shidduchim. She has been working for about 4 years so far and has a large sum of money in her savings account by now. We hope that she will be married soon, but we do not know Hashem’s plans.
I feel that it would be wise for her to use her money (which is rapidly going down in value) to buy a house. If she buys in a specific neighborhood that we are looking at, she can make a large down payment, and she can easily cover the mortgage payments with rental income.
She thinks it’s a good idea, but we both wonder if it would be a little weird for her to own a house before her marriage. Would her husband be happy about it? Would it put undue pressure on the couple to live in a specific neighborhood that he may not want to live in? Would her date be scared away and think that she is too high-powered?
We would really appreciate hearing your input.
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/22/21: To Go Into the Freezer or Not to Go Into the Freezer?
Question:
This question is no longer relevant to us, as you’ll see, but it may be applicable to others.
Before Yom Tov, our son came back from learning in Eretz Yisroel. We were unsure if we should have him go out right away or if we should wait until after the “freezer.” On one hand, he was being redd fine girls. On the other hand, he had just “landed,” and my husband and I thought that perhaps he should get himself settled before being thrown into the parsha of shidduchim. [In the end, because we were uncertain, we decided to wait and our son is now in the freezer.]
In general, what are the feelings of the panelists regarding this point? Should boys go out right after returning from Eretz Yisroel or are they better off waiting?
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/15/21: The Shadchanim Were So Eager to Meet Our Son. But for Our Daughter, We Just Cannot Get Through. What Gives?
Question:
My wife and I have a wonderful daughter who, boruch Hashem, has all the qualities and attributes that a Bas Yisroel should possess. She comes from a home that has invested in her totally (as many other homes have invested in their children). My wife and I are both professionals. We are both products of the yeshiva system. So what is the issue? We have been in contact with numerous shadchanim (at last count 8), and besides no suggestions from some, we have not even been afforded the courtesy of a return phone call from others.
When our sons were in shidduchim, shadchanim were falling over themselves to redd them shidduchim. Now, once they find out that we are calling about our daughter, there is no one home. What is wrong here?