Yated Shidduch Forum 1/28/22: How Should I Write a Shidduch Resume?
Question:
My husband and I are trying to put together a shidduch résumé, but are not seeing eye-to-eye as to what should be included. I believe that a résumé should give basic points about the person in shidduchim and his/her immediate family. When I drafted the résumé, it ran about two-thirds of a page. My husband wants to include more information so that “people have more ways to find out about us.” He wants to include information about grandparents, aunts, uncles, affiliations, etc. His draft ran about two pages.
What information about the boy/girl, parents, siblings, grandparents, or aunts/uncles should and should not be written on a résumé? Is there a difference between a résumé for a boy and for a girl? Can a résumé be too long?
Yated Shidduch Forum 1/21/22: Was She Wrong to Reject the Shidduch?
Question:
I got a 22-year-old girl to go out with a 27-year-old boy. Everything went very well and they both really wanted to get engaged. The girl asked that he commits to 5 years of learning. The boy said that even though he is a very serious learner, he doesn’t want to commit to another 5 years because he is older and is ready to move on in life.
The girl turned down the shidduch, and I believe she did something wrong. I feel that she should have focused on the bigger picture of getting herself married and building a bayis ne’eman. If she found someone she liked, she should have grabbed him and not gotten stuck on how many years he is going to learn. The number of years he learns after they marry should not be determined before the engagement, but after they get married. Take one day at a time to see how it’s working out.
What are your thoughts on the subject?
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Yated Shidduch Forum 1/14/22: Am I Sacrificing my Ruchniyus by Dating a Part-Time Learner?
Question:
I hope you can help me out with my dilemma.
I have been in shidduchim for a few years already. I was recently redd to two different boys. One is learning full-time. The other is learning part-time and working the other part of the day.
I was always looking for a full-time learner. However, the boy who is learning part-time, we are told, has beautiful middos, and sounds personality-wise more like what I’m looking for. We didn’t hear as good information about the full-time learner.
My question is: What’s more important, middos or learning? In school, we were always taught to look for a boy who will sit and learn all day. Am I giving up something in my ruchniyus by giving a yes to the part-time learner?