Yated Shidduch Forum 7/29/16: Turned Down for Going to the “Wrong” Yeshiva
Question: Thank you for considering our question, which is timely and is weighing on us very much. We are blessed with a son who is a metzuyan. You might say that we are biased parents, but we were told by his rosh yeshiva and his rabbeim throughout the years what an outstanding ben Torah he […]
Where What When 7/21/16 – Shidduchim: Stories, Sechel & Strategy
Navigating the shidduch parsha can be akin to traversing a vast forest in the dead of night with no torch in hand. As a result, decisions are made, often inadvertently, that may be counterproductive or even harmful. It is my hope to shed light on a few areas of concern that have presented themselves recently. […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/22/16: Feeling Hurt by the Shidduch System
Question: I am married, boruch Hashem, but after having been in shidduchim for a while, I’m still somewhat traumatized from the whole process. I can’t seem to shake the feeling of resentment toward our community. Why is shidduchim so humiliating? From being told that you are on someone’s waiting list, to going months without knowing when you will date next, to running […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/15/16: Dropping The Shadchan
Question: I recently redd a shidduch and the boy and girl went out one time. Strangely, after the first date, I was told by the chosson’s mother that the boy and girl will set up the next date and that I won’t need to be “bothered” with it. I was happy to hear that the […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/8/16: Researching a Shidduch for What Really Matters
Question: I have been on the receiving end of many shidduch reference calls for girls. Sometimes, the callers ask broad, general questions, while other times they ask many questions about all kinds of details. In general, I have found that few people ask the questions that will get the answers that really matter, such as (for a girl): […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 7/1/16: Too Cool?
Question: I am dating a girl who, it turns out, is “cooler” than my parents had thought she would be based on their research. In truth, I wasn’t looking for someone “cool” either, but we’ve gone out several times and have a good rapport. We have really hit it off and she has a wonderful, […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/24/16: How Much is Too Much?
Question: I am from out of town and have already gone to meet shadchanim in the tri-state area twice. I have probably met about twenty-five shadchanim already. My mother wants me to go to more places, but I think I’ve met enough people. When do I say, “Enough”? All I need is one boy from one […]
Not Your Standard “Parsha” Shiur – Chizuk and Advice for Singles in the Shidduch “Parsha”
Baltimore, MD – Rabbi Shraga Neuberger was the featured speaker at the Shidduch Center of Baltimore’s recent evening of shidduch hadracha for young men. Rabbi Neuberger discussed some of the most fundamental challenges that singles encounter in shidduchim and shared a wealth of information and advice with the many young men in attendance, some of […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 6/10/16: A Tough Question to Handle
Question: I try to be involved in shidduchim when I can. Recently, two different people who I red shidduchim to asked me the same question. I was caught off guard and would like your advice on how I should have answered. While redding shidduchim to these people, they asked me, “Would you be meshadech with the people you are redding to us?” I knew […]
Shidduch Gems: Words of Wisdom & Points to Ponder
Shidduch Gems: Words of Wisdom & Points to Ponder Since our revitalization this past summer, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore has been diligently working on fulfilling its mission statement: “to create and facilitate dating opportunities for Baltimore singles.” Our goal and hope is that our renewed efforts on behalf of Baltimore’s singles will provide guidance […]