Yated Shidduch Forum 11/9/18: My Future Father-In-Law Is Anti-Vaccinations. What Now?
Question: I have gone out with a girl who mentioned on a date that her father doesn’t believe in vaccinating. “But he’s not the type to tell other people what to do,” she said. [His children were all vaccinated. Apparently, his views on the matter changed after his children had grown up.] Like my parents […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 11/2/18: Do You Want to See My Bracelet?
Question: I went on a date and was very disturbed when the girl asked me, “Do you want to see my bracelet?” And she rolled up her sleeve and showed it to me. I was very disturbed. How should I have reacted? Maybe she was just nervous and not thinking straight. Should I be concerned? Answer: […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/26/18: Giving a “Yes” to More Than One Suggestion at the Same Time?
Question: Dear Esteemed Panelists, I read this column religiously and appreciate the insightful and rich ideas to which I’m exposed on a weekly basis. I hope that you will be able to provide the same meaningful answer not only to my particular question, but to the broader public, some of whom may be experiencing a […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/19/18: Nervous About an Over-The-Top Proposal
Question: I am going out with a boy and things are going very well. Barring any disappointments, our dating will likely end in engagement. I am petrified of an extravagant proposal. I know that it’s in style and some even anticipate it, but I don’t. I would appreciate a quiet, simple proposal, nothing fancy or […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 10/12/18: Hung Up On Yichus?
Question: With children in shidduchim, I often encounter the issue of yichus. I am wondering if you, as shadchanim, find that people are hung up on this. Interestingly, I recently read that someone asked Rav Avigdor Miller zt”l how much emphasis they should put on yichus when choosing a shidduch. Rav Miller responded that if the yichus is that the girl “comes from good parents, her father is […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/21/18: Am I Leading Him On If I Say Yes?
Question: Ayala receives a yes from Binyomin. Ayala and her parents do some checking and are really unsure as to the viability of this being a match for her. Ayala feels that there is less than a 50% chance that anything will come out of their meeting. Would Ayala be leading Binyomin on if she […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 9/7/18: In Search of Chizuk
Question: Hi. I look forward to read your column in the Yated each week. It’s very interesting and has been helpful to me with my dating difficulties. I’m an older single girl in my low thirties facing the hardship of being single for a number of years. Plus, I was previously engaged just about five years ago, […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/31/18: He Slipped Off His Shoes on a Date; Deal Breaker?
Question: I went on a date with a boy and it went well. We will be going out again. On the first date, however, he kept slipping off his slip-on shoes under the table. I know that people who wear slip-ons sometimes do that, but having it being done on a date really bothered me. […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/24/18: How to Confirm Financial Support?
Question: I have two married daughters who my wife and I help support. Our son is now in shidduchim, and while we are not looking to “put him up for sale,” we would like some assurance that the other side will at least provide some support. (Our financial situation is very tight.) I have a relative […]
Yated Shidduch Forum 8/17/18: An Unexpected Language Barrier
Question: I went out with a girl two times and the dates went well. However, during our conversations, she kept using certain phrases, like “Oh my gosh,” and “It was sooo amazing” and, most of all, “like.” I was like no way. I was like are you kidding? I was like this… I was like that… I […]