Question:
On several occasions, my son has had girls run out of his car after a date. He tells the girl that he had a nice date, and then, for example, he adds that he’ll call her (if that’s where they’re up to), and she flies out of the car without a proper good night.
There seems to be something missing in the training here.
Have you found this to be an issue? If yes, who should be responsible to convey to girls – and boys – that at the end of a date, a proper goodbye and good night ismentchlech?
Answer:
On the lighter side, and harking back to last week’s dilemma, perhaps some single women are fleeing from cars due to the standard date duration being preposterously protracted.
On the more serious side, there is no excuse whatsoever for anyone to conclude a date without exchanging polite post-date pleasantries. It is basic and categorically obligatory derech eretz, and I am utterly astonished and perplexed to hear that such uncouth conduct happened not only once, but repeatedly. As far as who should be conveying this simplest of educational points in the realm of common courtesy, I would hope that all parents have prepared their sons and daughters with this most rudimentary of dating skills, as it truly sits at the bottom rung of the human decency ladder.
May the Yodeia Taalumos uncover all the mysteries of misguided human behavior and usher in apposite decorum to all areas of our lives.
