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Category: Advice

Yated Shidduch Forum 6/7/19: Do I Always Need to Call the Resume References?

Question:
 
I was redd a shidduch by someone I trust. He knows the person well and was able to give us a very thorough picture of who the person is. My parents and I liked what we heard and called one or two people who are not on the résumé. They confirmed the positive information and we are ready to say yes. Is there any benefit to calling the people who are on the résumé?

Yated Shidduch Forum 5/10/19: Should My Son Get Braces Before He Starts Dating?

Question:

Dear Shadchanim,
My son will be starting shidduchim sometime next year. While we are aware that looks and appearance are second to middos, I would like him to get Invisalign/braces to better enhance his features. Our dentist never felt that he needed braces, and though he has a beautiful smile, and his teeth are all straight, I want to correct some of his open spaces. My son, on the other hand, doesn’t feel that cosmetic dentistry is necessary. Is it a benefit or is it overkill?

Yated Shidduch Forum 4/19/19: Can I Use My Cell Phone While On a Date?

Question: 
 
Is there any place or time during a date, from the time the boy arrives at the girl’s house till he drops her off, that it is acceptable for either the boy or girl to be checking their cell phone for voicemails, text messages, WhatsApps and the like? 
 
My thought process is that while the boy is driving, it is rude for the girl to be looking at her phone. 
 
In the hotel or lounge, the focus should be on each other, in my opinion, and phones should be on silent. 
 
Phones, I feel, should literally remain untouched throughout a date – or should they? What’s your opinion?

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Yated Shidduch Forum 3/29/19: Is it Important to Share in Shabbos Meals During Engagement?

Question:
 
Thank you for an excellent column each week.
 
I recently heard that more and more parents of chassanim and kallos have been pushing for them to skip the Shabbos together at each other’s houses during the engagement. They say that spending Shabbos together at each other’s homes causes unneeded stress. 
 
In your opinion, are there any benefits to having a Shabbos together at both sides’ houses, or is there really no need for it? Are there instances when it has been beneficial because they were able to learn more about each other’s families? Can this be done by simply having supper together and not hosting an entire weekend?  
 
Thank you for your insight.

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The Shidduch Center of Baltimore and Its Dedicated Shadchanim

Over the past three years, thanks to unparalleled siyata deShmaya, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore has been zochehto set up well over 500 couples on dates, and has seen 56 of those dates result in marriages, all for families in our community. While this incredible outcome is certainly representative of the work of numerous shadchanim, in combination with our many events and programs, it is without question that the vast majority of these results would not be possible without the exceptional efforts of our team of dedicated shadchanim.

613 Seconds with The Shidduch Center

We spent some time with The Shidduch Center of Baltimore’s Executive Director, Shlomo Goldberger, to learn more about the The Shidduch Center, and the profound impact it is having on our community.