Question: I think that older siblings who have been “skipped” may relate to my question. I am a twenty-four-year old single girl and my younger sister recently became engaged. I find myself in an uncomfortable and pressured position now to give what is commonly referred to as “mechilah,” either by expressing it verbally to my...Read More
Question: Is it okay to tell a young couple redding a shidduch that you are interested in the shidduch, but that you want to have an experienced shadchan redd it to the other side? The obvious downside is that it makes these wonderful people, who are constantly encouraged here and elsewhere to think of shidduchim,...Read More
Question: My daughter is 19 years old and back from two years of seminary. She is a capable, mature, solid girl who knows what she wants and the direction she wants to go in. We are also looking forward to help supporting her family for a while in order to allow her husband to learn...Read More
Question: Thank you so much for this wonderful forum. I have a daughter in the parshah and have gained a lot of insight from these columns. I know that there is some debate regarding the acceptability of shadchanim taking money up front before meeting girls. I’m not sure I agree or disagree with the practice, but three...Read More
Question: A recent Yated letter compared shadchanim to realtors, who are generally only paid on commission. The letter commented on the noticeable difference in the level of personal service offered by realtors (as well as the time realtors invest in each and every attempted home sale) versus the letters writer’s experience with shadchanim. The writer therefore...Read More
Question: We are blessed to have a wonderful 19-year-old girl in the parsha. We get redd shidduchim quite a bit and hope to soon find the right one. We attached a picture of our daughter to her résumé. In the photo, she is elegantly dressed for a friend’s chasunah. Very often, we receive requests from the boy’s parents...Read More
Question: When it comes to shadchanus, is there any place for the two sides to discuss with each other what they plan on giving and arrange to give equal amounts so that neither looks bad? Or should each side just do their own thing? Your input is greatly appreciated. Answer: While I...Read More
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