Yated Shidduch Forum 9/17/21: Should Parents Meet a Prospective Shidduch Before Saying Yes?
Question:
I’ve long wondered about the following. How come we, as parents, allow our children to go out with those whom we have never met before? What I mean is that when a shidduch is redd, we do research, and then, if we like what we hear, we give a yes and the boy and girl go out. If we’re the girl’s parents, we get to meet the boy for a few minutes before the date begins, but there’s no giving a no at that point; it’s too late. If we’re the boy’s parents, we don’t get to meet the girl until a few dates in.
Why is that? Shouldn’t the parents of a boy and a girl be meeting with their child’s prospective date before they even go out to see if they pick up on any red flags? Shouldn’t we be able to screen the prospective date before sending them out with our child?